Are you endlessly agreeable? Afraid to not be good- then prepare for bad things to happen. Yes. Being positive doesn’t have much to do with pleasing. And pleasing and pleasant are 2 different things.

Being pleasant is operating within healthy boundaries. Pleasing is disregarding your own. And then you are making an agreement bond with someone who will most likely drain you of any other things they set their heart on.

Most people don’t require much to be a friend. Remember when you are in a giving bondage with someone else that you can’t seem to stop, you become the needy one in your relationships with healthy people.

So keep your distance and stay safe.

It shouldn’t be easy for anyone to access or even be aware of your great virtues. Boundaries are made of obstacles that a person needs to solve before approaching on a personal level.

Here are some examples of obstacles;

Ask yourself;

Who is directing the exchange

Are they asking leading questions

Are they drawing closer into your personal space

These are indicators that this individual wants to control you.

Who are You

Do you often put others needs above your own

What are your needs

Do you feel guilty often

These questions take us below the surface of our casual self. But here in the less familiar area of our heart we will find what needs to be changed to get better results in our everyday experiences.